17 Telltale Signs That Your Breakup Was the Wrong Decision

You’re listening to Taylor Swift non-stop and the top of your bed is covered with tissues, and all you want is to call them and talk it out. Here are 17 signs that your breakup might have been the wrong decision.

You look forward to seeing them, even after the breakup

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When you’ve been in a relationship for a while, friends begin to melt together, and favorite places are shared with your love. After a breakup, most people dread the moment they have to see their ex. If you find yourself looking forward to events they’ll be at or seeing them at happy hour, you may not have been ready to end things.

You remember the good times more than the bad times

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When you’re lying in bed at night, playing back all the memories, all you can think about are the good times. Even when you try to think about the fights, the good times far outweigh the bad. Life is never going to be 100% sunshine and roses; the rain comes too. It’s time to leave when the bad outweighs the good.

You have mutual respect

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Trust is everything, and it’s truly hard to find someone you have no doubts about and can have faith in. Trust blended with respect is the best foundation for love. When you’ve gone your separate ways but still have only positive things to say about the person, maybe it’s time to rethink why you split in the first place.

You find yourself constantly thinking about them

It’s normal for an ex to cross your mind, especially when it’s fresh, but when everything makes you think of them, it may not be over for you. The person we love is the person we want to talk to when something bad happens and the one we want to celebrate with when something good does. If you find yourself reaching for the phone to text them because you just know they would love to hear something, it’s time to give them that call.

You miss their companionship

You just want to be near them. Even if it isn’t in a romantic way, you miss their friendship, and that can be more important than the spark. Someone you can be completely comfortable with is rare.

You feel a sense of regret after the breakup

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You’re constantly thinking you messed up and that you shouldn’t have walked away. You’re wishing you had heard them out or said what you really wanted to. If these thoughts are haunting you, you should assess if the breakup was as final as it feels right now.

You keep breaking up and getting back together

Relationship cycling can be toxic or it can be a sign you love each other, and there is just something you need to work out. “Some relationships might persist in being low in quality. Others might end. In others, partners may find new ways to address each other’s needs, to be grateful for and supportive of each other, and to elevate the benefits of being in their relationship over the costs,” according to Psychology Today.

You feel that your life isn’t moving forward without them

You feel more than unhappy; you feel stuck, like your life is going nowhere without them. This is a good time to talk to a therapist and see what the root of this feeling is. It could be that this relationship was good for you and needs to be revisited.

You still have a strong emotional connection with them

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There are people you just feel connected to; they feel like coming home. After a breakup, some previous couples still feel the emotional bond and are unable to completely cut ties. If, when all is said and done, you both still feel this connection, it’s time to sit down and discuss where things stand.

You find it hard to imagine your future without them

You close your eyes, and everything you want for your future has them in it. The happy moments and the sad moments—they all have them by your side. Sit down and journal about the life you want, and see how they fit in—faults and all. If you want to make it work, reach out.

You still have a strong physical attraction to them

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Their touch melts you—seeing them across the room makes your heart flutter, and a cheesy smile creeps across your face. Physical attraction may be the best thing in a partnership, but it’s a superficial reason to stay together. However, when you’re sexually compatible with each other, that can be a hard feeling to beat.

You feel that the reasons for the breakup were minor misunderstandings

You missed dinner plans because you didn’t understand how important they were, and you had a work thing come up. They teased you about a childhood insecurity they didn’t know was a big deal. Sometimes the little things become big in the heat of the moment. Once we cool down, they become small again, and we’re left with regret.

You feel that you didn’t give your partner a chance to explain their side

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You still want to talk to them; you want to hear them out. You’ve finally realized you weren’t communicating the same way with each other. But now you’re starting to understand you were speaking the wrong love language, and all it takes to fix things is hearing them out.

You feel that the breakup was more of a hasty decision than a well-thought-out one

Every relationship has its ups, downs, and plateaus. In a bored moment, you started thinking you wanted that spark again, and instead of finding a way to reignite that fire, you threw water on it and put it out. Now you’re realizing that fixing what you have is worth more than a thousand new sparks.

Their actions prove that you should rethink breaking up with them

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If your partner hurt you or broke your trust, look at how they act afterward to see if it’s something worth repairing. If they make an effort to openly communicate with you and change their behavior, it may be worth trying again. Keep in mind that trusting someone after they hurt you will not always be easy.

You still see them as a significant part of your life

This rings especially true if you have kids with this person. Children should never be the reason to stay in an abusive relationship, and it’s OK to walk away if the relationship is not salvageable. However, if there’s still respect and trust, the bond of having children together may be strong enough to fix it.

You still love them

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This should be an easy one. If you still love them, it may not really be over. It’s true that love is not always enough to save a relationship, but it should be enough to at least give it a second to think about the breakup.

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